How to Build Bonds with Blogging Power Brokers through Commenting

How to Build Bonds with Blogging Power Brokers through Commenting
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How to Build Bonds with Blogging Power Brokers through Commenting

I am blessed to have built strong bonds with blogging big dawgs.

I uncovered a simple formula for hobnobbing with super influential bloggers.

It works like this:

Show Love Through Blog Commenting = Get Love Through All Types of Channels.

I wish the formula were terribly complex. Then I could fool you into thinking I was smart.

I wish the equation was super difficult to understand and put into action. Then I could hoodwink you into believing I was some blogging authority.

Alas, all I do is stare at a glowing rectangular screen and tap little squares on my keyboard for a handful of hours daily.

I uncovered a few simple practical – and energetic – tips along the way, for becoming friends with influential bloggers through the miracle of blog commenting.

Before we dive in you should know that becoming friends with successful bloggers opens a torrential flood of blogging opportunities flowing your way, a tidal wave of guest post opportunities, features, interviews and all the sugary, corn syrupy goodness one will taste as the blogging by-product of such fabulous opportunities.

1: Have Fun

For most of my online career I focused on a silly “F” word: finances.

For the past few years I focused more on another “F” word: fun.

I noted something curious: successful bloggers tend to befriend me if I am focused on having fun with blog commenting. Because I give off a fun energy, and everybody loves having fun.

When I focused on finances, or profits, predominantly, I gave off a more desperate, strained energy. A repelling energy. Even if I wrote masterful, entertaining, in-depth comments I still told the big dawgs to stay away because my energy said so.

Comment – predominantly – to have fun. See the comment field as your canvas. You create from a fun, passionate space, the Jackson Pollack of Palaver, and you betcha top bloggers will take notice.

2: Make Friends (another Energy Tip)

Have fun commenting.

Then, make friends through commenting.

The 2nd tip works nicely with the first tip.

If you’re having fun, let thy blog commenting party commence. Get down. Twerk. Whatever floats your party boat. Then, make buddies through commenting.

Look at commenting less as a way to show off and more as a way to bond.

My energy: comment to have fun and to make friends.

I think not – much – of nabbing blog traffic or backlinks or any specific outcome other than having loads of fun writing and building meaningful, long term friendships with awesome folks.

3: Write Something Helpful

Whether your comment spans 2 or 8 paragraphs, write something helpful.

See your comment as a mini guest post.

You choose the word and/or paragraph count. Publish something worthy. Publish something meaty.

Set aside 3 to 5 minutes to craft your comment. Treat those 3 to 5 minutes as precious. For your comment is a place to play, a place to bond, a place to gab, a place to make friends with other rocking bloggers.

4: Personalize

My first name is the best sounding word in the English language.

You probably feel the same way. Not about “Ryan”. Although my name’s meaning of “little king” has a nice ring to it. But about your name.

Use blogger names to personalize your comments.

Seize every opportunity to create a strong, intimate bond with fellow bloggers.

If you treat me as anonymous, I probably will not remember you. But if you set aside 1 second to address me by name you just planted the seed from which can sprout a beautiful, long term friendship.

Use your fellow blogger’s name at least once in every comment. Be memorable.

5: Be Polite

Mama Biddulph always told me to say “please” and “thank you”.

Polite people open doors that rude people could never see.

This rule works well in the blog commenting game, too.

Big dawg bloggers like to be cyber wined and dined. Virtually all bloggers enjoy interacting with polite, proper, pleasant people. Again; to stand out it sure helps to be memorable. Being polite helps you become memorable.

Begin every comment with, “Hello (insert name here)”. (I wonder why their parents named them (insert name here)?) Anyway, address your fellow blogger with a “Hello” and end the comment by thanking them for sharing their insights.

Be polite.

Wow the socks off of successful bloggers.

6: Comment on High Profile Blogs (Among Others)

Hang where the high rollers hang.

Comment on high profile blogs.

You can also comment on less well known blogs but if you want to connect with power brokers comment on their blogs.

You know power broker blogs in your niche. If not, find them,  and begin commenting.

7: Comment Daily

Make an effort to comment on blogs every day.

Whether on 3, 5 or 10 blogs a day, get your comment on.

Be persistent, get noticed.

Grow on fellow influential bloggers.

8: Do an Energy Check Up Periodically

I stopped commenting on other blogs and shut down comments on Blogging From Paradise for months because commenting felt like work. Or more accurately, I ceased having fun commenting.

If, at any moment, you feel yourself drifting away from tip #1 – having fun – stop commenting. Cold turkey. Because blogging is an energy game.

If you comment from a fun, carefree space you will make buddies with other fun-loving, carefree bloggers. Many of whom are blogging power brokers.

These big dawgs are not in survival mode, trying to manipulate people to get traffic and money. Nope. They blog for fun and the money, and traffic, and profitable ideas follow.

If commenting feels like drudge work, stop wasting your time. Let it go for a bit. If commenting seems like it’d be fun again see if you’re pulled back to this approach to making buddies.

Your Turn

Do you comment on blogs? Why? Why not?

How do you make friends with successful bloggers through blog commenting?

Ryan Biddulph

Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who's been featured on Richard Branson's Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you build a successful blog with the 11 Fundamentals of Successful Blogging Audio Course.

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  1. J. Husin says:

    Great tips. Having fun is definitely key! I’m putting these tips in my arsenal. Thanks!

  2. Nikki G says:

    Thanks you so much for sharing.

  3. Tamal Anwar says:

    Hello Ryan, such a small world, I just left a comment on your blog just half an hour ago to find another of your post here. This is what I am trying to do to have fun and forget about some link building scheme.

  4. Perla says:

    Hello Ryan,

    Thank you for these wonderful tips on building bonds through commenting. I surely would love to become online friends. 🙂
    I am pleased to discover that we think alike. My grandfather insisted on being polite too and that advise was the most precious I’ve ever received.
    I wish you all the luck in achieving all of your dreams.


    • Hi Perla,

      That’s a gem of advice right there 😉 Grandpa was right. It is easy too. Takes a few seconds to thank someone and to be nice and mindful and loving. Thank you for reading and commenting.


  5. George says:

    Thanks for the above tips. Speaking of blog commenting, I remember a few years ago, actually it was way back in 2005-2008, engagement was so much higher than now. Several blogs I followed (they were the biggest blogs in our country, with millions of views) today get only 20-50 comments (and they still remain the biggest blogger in our country) but back in 2005-2008, they used to get 500 comments. Does anyone know why the sudden drop in engagement? Did this happen word-wide? Sorry to be so curious, but I really have been thinking about why the tremendous drop in engagement.

    • Hi George,

      Those big blogs chose not to engage readers through readers as much 😉 Always a reflection deal: if you show love to your readers, they will show love back to you.

      Some chose to take engagement offsite, like Copy Blogger, with comments going the social media route. Although I think Brian and crew are back to commenting on da blog again.

      Always about showing love and engaging where you want to be. And if you look at Marie Forleo’s blog she is still getting mega comments, so she is still committed to community building thru commenting.


  6. Rob says:

    Hey dude, being a nice person will take you far!!!

  7. I couldn’t agree more and I think blogger outreach is fun. I find myself digging through a bunch of different websites and finding a lot of interesting characters. Most bloggers will take the time to respond to your comments and even they don’t they might check out your website or other people might check it out, so it’s a win-win. Thanks for sharing these awesome tips, Ryan!

  8. Alex Barret says:

    Sometimes comments with links are being considered as spam or a marketing strategy and are often deleted by the website owners. So I make a comment only if I like the post!

  9. Joe says:

    One of the hardest parts (for me at least) is leaving a relevant comment. I don’t want to comment just to put a link to my site – that’s just too spammy!

    • Hi Joe,

      Facing, embracing and releasing the fear of being seen as spammy will open you up to all types of creativity. Feeling creative, you can allow your prolific juices to flow. So you can be relevant, creative and super energized to publish a helpful, specific, thorough comment that knocks people’s socks off 🙂


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  13. Halle says:

    You’re right about taking an break.

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