I am blessed to have built strong bonds with blogging big dawgs.
I uncovered a simple formula for hobnobbing with super influential bloggers.
It works like this:
I wish the formula were terribly complex. Then I could fool you into thinking I was smart.
I wish the equation was super difficult to understand and put into action. Then I could hoodwink you into believing I was some blogging authority.
Alas, all I do is stare at a glowing rectangular screen and tap little squares on my keyboard for a handful of hours daily.
I uncovered a few simple practical – and energetic – tips along the way, for becoming friends with influential bloggers through the miracle of blog commenting.
Before we dive in you should know that becoming friends with successful bloggers opens a torrential flood of blogging opportunities flowing your way, a tidal wave of guest post opportunities, features, interviews and all the sugary, corn syrupy goodness one will taste as the blogging by-product of such fabulous opportunities.
For most of my online career I focused on a silly “F” word: finances.
For the past few years I focused more on another “F” word: fun.
I noted something curious: successful bloggers tend to befriend me if I am focused on having fun with blog commenting. Because I give off a fun energy, and everybody loves having fun.
When I focused on finances, or profits, predominantly, I gave off a more desperate, strained energy. A repelling energy. Even if I wrote masterful, entertaining, in-depth comments I still told the big dawgs to stay away because my energy said so.
Comment – predominantly – to have fun. See the comment field as your canvas. You create from a fun, passionate space, the Jackson Pollack of Palaver, and you betcha top bloggers will take notice.
Have fun commenting.
Then, make friends through commenting.
The 2nd tip works nicely with the first tip.
If you’re having fun, let thy blog commenting party commence. Get down. Twerk. Whatever floats your party boat. Then, make buddies through commenting.
Look at commenting less as a way to show off and more as a way to bond.
My energy: comment to have fun and to make friends.
Whether your comment spans 2 or 8 paragraphs, write something helpful.
See your comment as a mini guest post.
You choose the word and/or paragraph count. Publish something worthy. Publish something meaty.
Set aside 3 to 5 minutes to craft your comment. Treat those 3 to 5 minutes as precious. For your comment is a place to play, a place to bond, a place to gab, a place to make friends with other rocking bloggers.
My first name is the best sounding word in the English language.
You probably feel the same way. Not about “Ryan”. Although my name’s meaning of “little king” has a nice ring to it. But about your name.
Use blogger names to personalize your comments.
Seize every opportunity to create a strong, intimate bond with fellow bloggers.
If you treat me as anonymous, I probably will not remember you. But if you set aside 1 second to address me by name you just planted the seed from which can sprout a beautiful, long term friendship.
Use your fellow blogger’s name at least once in every comment. Be memorable.
Mama Biddulph always told me to say “please” and “thank you”.
Polite people open doors that rude people could never see.
This rule works well in the blog commenting game, too.
Big dawg bloggers like to be cyber wined and dined. Virtually all bloggers enjoy interacting with polite, proper, pleasant people. Again; to stand out it sure helps to be memorable. Being polite helps you become memorable.
Begin every comment with, “Hello (insert name here)”. (I wonder why their parents named them (insert name here)?) Anyway, address your fellow blogger with a “Hello” and end the comment by thanking them for sharing their insights.
Wow the socks off of successful bloggers.
Hang where the high rollers hang.
Comment on high profile blogs.
You can also comment on less well known blogs but if you want to connect with power brokers comment on their blogs.
You know power broker blogs in your niche. If not, find them, and begin commenting.
Make an effort to comment on blogs every day.
Whether on 3, 5 or 10 blogs a day, get your comment on.
Be persistent, get noticed.
Grow on fellow influential bloggers.
I stopped commenting on other blogs and shut down comments on Blogging From Paradise for months because commenting felt like work. Or more accurately, I ceased having fun commenting.
If, at any moment, you feel yourself drifting away from tip #1 – having fun – stop commenting. Cold turkey. Because blogging is an energy game.
If you comment from a fun, carefree space you will make buddies with other fun-loving, carefree bloggers. Many of whom are blogging power brokers.
These big dawgs are not in survival mode, trying to manipulate people to get traffic and money. Nope. They blog for fun and the money, and traffic, and profitable ideas follow.
If commenting feels like drudge work, stop wasting your time. Let it go for a bit. If commenting seems like it’d be fun again see if you’re pulled back to this approach to making buddies.
Do you comment on blogs? Why? Why not?
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